Sex Talk for Married Couples
OK, we have come to the end of our Myth about sex. These 12 Myths are accredited to Dr. Joel Block from his book Sex over 50. Dr. Block is a Psychologist, Author and Relationships expert on Sexuality and Intimacy. Dr. Block has given me his permission to use these myths in my blog.
Thanks Dr. Joel Block on your many works. drblock.com you can also find his books on amazon.com
Intercourse equals sex is a modern Western concept. In the ancient Indian text the Kama Sutra, many forms of lovemaking were celebrated. Is it coincidence that the Eastern erotic acts became popular again when the boomers entered their 40’s? Most of us learned as teens that Love play I don’t like using (foreplay) was the kissing, caressing, and touching a man had to do to get a woman ready for intercourse, Love play Continue reading “Myth 12”
According to studies cited by the Janus Report on Sexual Behavior and The Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex, couples are more likely to have oral sex at 40 than at 20. Younger people have more inhibitions about performing sex acts, including fellatio and cunnilingus. They are also more likely to be unsure of their erotic skills and hold back because of performance anxiety, something older women suffer, too.
Both men and women can find satisfaction in lovemaking the does not end in orgasm. Sometimes couples are tired or rushed, yet want to kiss, caress, and fondle each other. Orgasm is not a goal that must be reached each time. In fact, some mature lovers deliberately make love without orgasm to intensify the experience when they do have one. I agree.
A study of 1600 people conducted at Boston’s New England Deaconess Hospital found that the risk of a heart attack during sex was roughly equivalent to the risk of a heart attack from getting out of bed in the morning. According to Dr. Robert Butler, former director of the National Institute on Aging; heart attacks during intercourse account for less than 1 percent of all coronary deaths and 70 percent of those occur during extramarital liaisons when the stress level can be assumed higher. Sexual activity is actually good for all of us. Lovemaking has many physical and psychological benefits, from reducing stress to preventing depression (So have has much Sex as you like.)
Too many of us believe that sex is only for the young and beautiful. A corollary of this belief is the assumption that sexual ecstasy is most intensely experienced by the young. Not true. Women often report that orgasms are more intense after the age of 40. Although men may notice that the force of their ejaculation is not as strong in mid-age as in youth, they will also feel a more diffuse orgasm in other parts of the body, including the entire genital area, not merely the head of the penis.
For most women, sex does get better in their 30’s, but their level of responsiveness does not plateau and then level off in later years as many have mistakenly believed. However, women increased the ease with their bodies and confidence in lovemaking continues to grow throughout life. In addition, a woman’s orgasmic capacity, including the ability to have multiple orgasms, is undiminished by age. I totally agree.
Many women report an increased sexual desire after menopause. In one survey of women over 50 conducted by the Robert Wood Johnson Medical School in New Brunswick, New Jersey, a whopping 72 percent reported not complaints – including – declining desire about their sex lives, when postmenopausal women do have less interest in lovemaking, the causes are typically a hormone imbalance or negative thinking. These issues can be resolved. In addition, desire at any age is affected by any other factors, including health and fitness, relationship issue, and general stress. Ladies stop stress and have more Sex.
The older a man gets, the less likely he is to have an unassisted erection- in others words, to become erect merely by looking at this partner or another arousing female. That does not mean he is not aroused or is not interested in making love to her. After aged 40 or 50, a man needs direct penile stimulation to get an erection. When mid-age men have difficulty making love, the Continue reading “Myth 5”
Men often interpreter natural physiological changes as being problems, they think they are not hard enough because they are not as hard as they were when they were younger. By the time a man is in his 40, nearly every man will or has experienced a bout of erectile dysfunction, and fear the erotic disappointments will inevitably become regular occurrences. However, healthy, physically and sexually active men can continue to achieve erections into old age without medical intervention. Most erectile dysfunctions are sometimes caused by illness, medication OTC and prescribe drugs as well as alcohol abuse. Therefore, men stay healthy and have more sex.