Category: 10 Things Men Want From Their Wives

Trust and being trusted is vital to the success of a healthy marriage. The way couples build trust in a healthy relationship is by being honest with each other communicating, and learning to fight fairly.  A relationship takes time to build, and it takes time to build trust.  Without trust, a relationship wouldn’t survive. Trust is essential to life, and it is innocuous to say that more relationships fail from a lack of trust than by actual betrayal or infidelity or of the other person. 

Wives, Wives, Wives, Let your man have his free time; there is nothing like having time for you. I am not the type of wife that crowds her husband. As I require my free time, so does my husband. A man needs to get away alone to think, relax, and gather their thoughts. When your husband comes home from work, never greet him with unnecessary chatter of your workday, nor start complaining. Allow him time to unwind and get himself together. Let your husband have some free space to do him. Do greet him when he comes in and asks how his day was. However, be mindful of your husbands’ free time and allow him to have time to himself. Once he is relaxed, then it will be time well spent with each other.

Quiet Please! If you are anything like me, you love to talk, however, my husband is not as chatty as I am. Sometimes, wives, we have to learn to say nothing. I know there are many things we want to talk about to our mate, but let your man unwind and rest before you start with your list of conversations. Communication is key to any relationship; however, scheduling a time to have a conversation with your husband is wonderful especially if he is not a talker. You have to know when to much chatter is enough. Quiet Please.

Wives’ your husband wants you to get Him. Your husband wants you to acknowledge that you get him. Men are logical thinkers, problem solvers, while we (us women) are emotional creatures and will Intune with our feelings more than men. However, this doesn’t mean your man is not worthy of you understanding his feelings.

There are several ways wives and husbands can show they understand each other by making a commitment to have talk time. Schedule a date on the calendar to have a heart-to-heart talk with one another to express how you both feeling about each other. Wives, you would be surprised how open your husband will be, knowing you get him; this will definitely strengthen your marriage. My husband and I have a set date on our calendar to stop, relax, and talk. Make Time To Talk.

In, order to have a successful married respecting your husband is important.  An essential way to let your husband know you love and respect him is by being an active listener. As women we what to do all the talking and not let our husbands express their opinion. Men rarely talk as it is, so when they do speak wives we should listen and not interrupt.

Wives here are a few things to demonstrate respect:

Don’t make negative comments about his opinion and thoughts.

• Your husband’s thoughts and opinions matter so wives don’t be in such a hurry to discredit him.

Try to be considerate of his plans when he wants to do something with the family.

• I always make plans for our vacation, dinner, etc.  This year my husband is planning the vacation and I did not interrupt.

Ladies stop with the eye roll when you disagree with your husband.

• Guilty…this is me. Yes, and don’t trade in the eye roll with a lip pout. You know who I am speaking too. You will not always agree; however, there is no reason to be angry.

This is the most important when showing respect to your husband, having a positive attitude, and being considerate of his wants and needs.

• Man will shut down when they are not respected in their homes. When your husband comes home from work, he needs a quiet and peaceful environment to unwind from the pressure of the outside world. His Home is his Kingdom.

I can’t thank my husband enough for taking good care of our family, I have learned to listen and appreciate Him more.

Most men love to be acknowledged for a job well done.  Wives please compliment your husband and do it often. This will make him feel like he just hit the lottery. My husband is funny, he will let me know what he has done and I applaud him with a little chuckle.  It will not hurt to let him know you appreciate how hard he works. Remember to always thank him for loving you and taking care of you and the family.  Most importantly, tell your man how good he looks when he gets dressed. In addition, at the end of the day kiss him and love on him and let him know how much you admire him as a person and your man. These compliments will always lead to the bedroom.

Most husbands believe it is important to protect and provide for their families and those they love. While this is true, it is equally important to let him know that you’re supportive of his talents and skills as a man. Men need encouragement and the person they want it from the most is their wife. When a man is encouraged this completely builds his confidence and will make him feel larger than life. Every man loves to be cheered on for a job well done so go on and be his biggest cheerleader. In addition, wives don’t treat your husband like a child, yes, they still do childish things no matter what the age; however, he is still a grown man. It will not hurt to let him take control. When out on a date, let him order your meal (he should know what you like). Little things of this nature will allow him to be more comfortable and poised, knowing he is trusted in the relationship.

Wives do you know that men need love too. I have learned that although men are strong and our protectors, they have an emotional side of them that need to be nurtured.

There are 10 things a man need; however, most of the time he will not express his feelings. The most he will confess is that sex is super important and number one on his list for what he wants in marriage. Most husbands rarely ask their wives for what they want; though, many men have feelings and thoughts they keep to themselves. The reason most men don’t express themselves is due to the pressure and stress placed on them to provide for their family financially. Even when there is a dual income and the wife makes more than the husband he still feels pressure to do more. This can create a strain on the relationship, so understanding his inner world will open him up to a world of endless possibilities and opportunities. We will start with:

Affection

While sex is high and remains very important for most men, many just what to experience more affection. Whether it is leaving a love message, holding his hand in public, sweet voicemails, or simply massaging his shoulders will show that you care with acts of fondness that will warm his heart. Try different ways to show him how much you desire and care for him by being warm. You will be surprised how the little things like cheering him on when he’s feeling doubtful and expressing how sorry you are when things don’t go well. Go on, experiment with romantic and emotional affection to see what really make him feel whole.  Little lengthy, it has a purpose.

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