Sex Talk for Married Couples
Morning Wake UP
Sometimes Sex in the morning is the best way to start your day. For me it’s better than a cup of coffee. Morning sex makes you think of each other more throughout the day awaiting a continuation. Make time for morning sex, if you hear rain definitely stay in bed. Make it a play day being naked and loving on each other, this never gets old. Moreover, leave the TV off, order take out, phones off. Make this day about each other.
There is nothing I like more than cuddling up with my man on a cold winter day. Ron and I love lighting a cozy fire with a blanket on the floor and have an inside picnic. How Romantic. The both of us slip into our cozy PJ’s and relax. You don’t always have to go out of the house to have a great time. Pop in a good movie and use your imagination to fill in the rest of the evening, this will be the best time to have spontaneous sex. Don’t forget the popcorn or what ever’s your pleasure.
When it comes to you having sex, who is the initiator? Who makes the first move? If a request is made, should that person making the request be the initiator? Couples spend to much time deciding who is going to make the first move. However, the person with the request should at least set the mood so you know he or she is ready. Sitting in silence will only lead to frustration and no sex at all. If neither partner is willing to speak up, then no one will be getting the sex they desire. Communication is the key to great sex. Let your request be made known.
Being stressed can put a damper on your lovemaking, and distraction can be a turn off. Who wants to have sex when negative things are going on in your mind? When you come home unwind, relax have a glass of wine, a cup of tea, a hot bath; whatever it takes you to shake off the day. Relaxation leads to good conversation and then lovemaking. Don’t bring home your whole list of adverse things that happen during the day; maybe mention one or two things then move on don’t linger. (Coming home and unwinding)
I have put a lot of information on to this blog and there is plenty to add. In order to have and effective relationship with yourself or anyone you must first master who you are, and know what you believe. The first male and female relationship started with Adam and Eve, a relationship God placed together. Later Adam blamed Eve, but the point is relationships take time; take the time to get to know each other and the dynamic will be great. I found there are three stages to marriage and to have a successful marriage you must master all three. So don’t quit, and hang in there until death do you part.
I would like to share some personal information on how we started writing this blog. When we got married, there were no rule-books to tell us what our marriage would be like. Although books have been written how many of us will take the time to learn how to be a partner or please our partner. We think it is just getting in the bed having sex and that is the end. (For some)
Throughout my life I have always been fascinated with the human body (God is amazing) and sexuality on how the body responds to pleasure. What I found is before we can give our bodies to one another we must learn our bodies for ourselves.
Early in my marriage, my husband and I had some difference in our pleasures. We both were not expressive in communicating what we wanted from each other or how to approach the subject to start a conversation on what we wanted sexually. Although the sex was good, it was not great and how could we Continue reading “Confession From The Bedroom”
OK, we have come to the end of our Myth about sex. These 12 Myths are accredited to Dr. Joel Block from his book Sex over 50. Dr. Block is a Psychologist, Author and Relationships expert on Sexuality and Intimacy. Dr. Block has given me his permission to use these myths in my blog.
Thanks Dr. Joel Block on your many works. drblock.com you can also find his books on amazon.com
Intercourse equals sex is a modern Western concept. In the ancient Indian text the Kama Sutra, many forms of lovemaking were celebrated. Is it coincidence that the Eastern erotic acts became popular again when the boomers entered their 40’s? Most of us learned as teens that Love play I don’t like using (foreplay) was the kissing, caressing, and touching a man had to do to get a woman ready for intercourse, Love play Continue reading “Myth 12”