Don’t skip foreplay, again you are not in a race and there is no need to rush; lovemaking is an art and this is your chance to work your masterpiece. This is the opportunity to be desired, sought after, and pleasured by your partner. Don’t be selfish, take turns giving and receiving foreplay; this represents the part of the sexual script where both of you are taking turns pleasuring one another. Couples who skip foreplay do a disservice to their relationship because you miss out on the opportunity to learn what you like sexually. This is also the opportunity to let your request be made known, and tell your partner what you desire and to have the type of sex you want. Oral or manual stimulation represent good options for foreplay (your desire). If you are not currently engaging in foreplay with your husband or wife, consider discussing the subject outside the bedroom as an idea you would like to explore.
Valentines Confession
My husband and I don’t usually celebrate Valentine’s Day; however, since there is a big buzz in the air for some much-needed love, we have decided to join in and celebrate. Now, we don’ t go out and break the bank and we are not show-offs. Therefore, to keep it simple and inexpensive I will make a lite dinner and set the scene. We both have to work on that day so what I decide to do will not be that involved. Moreover, we won’t go out an celebrate because the prices are inflated and we do not like to waste money. So in saying all that, no matter what YOU decide to do make it special and make it fun for the both of you; don’t fall into the trap of competition. Be original
The Importance Of Foreplay
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Start with a Kiss
I failed to mention that before you can start the foreplay communication is key. Remember, intimacy does not start when you enter the bedroom it starts throughout the day. With a phone call, text message, love note in the lunch; start the fire early in the day for the anticipation of the evening to come.
Let the fire blaze, slow kissing is very stimulating, there’s nothing more exciting than starting your lovemaking with a good kiss. Start by holding your partners face in your hands, look him or her in the eyes; savor the moment then kiss away. Don’t rush, take your time and feel the sensation as your body begins to respond to the kiss. Kissing helps to get you aroused and prepare the body to move right into intercourse. You would be surprised how many couples skip this step. Men who struggle with erection difficulties or arousal issues should pay particular attention to this step as it helps get you ready for sex. Kissing also helps reduce anxiety as it relaxes you to move right into more intimate and sexual touching.
It Takes 2 to Tangle
It disturbs me when I hear married couples say their husband or wife is not a good lover. It takes two to tangle and if one of you is saying this about the other, then both of you are to blame. If you are not getting the satisfaction in the bedroom you desire, then maybe you both need to rethink your strategy. Are you both not expressing what you want and if so STOP doing things the same way that is boring? Change things up; LET YOUR REQUEST BE MADE KNOW. You don’t have to re-event the wheel; however, your love-making should be pleasing to each other. Take your time, don’t rush, and find out what each other like. ( It’s never too late) Wives don’t be selfish thinking your husband has to make the first move, you initiate. And husbands don’t be shy tell your wife what you like. Learn to be passionate and patient about your love life, again this is not a race; savor the moment it’s worth it.
When Romance is on Hold
Readjust and take a Pause!
Husbands and wives, when you are arguing did you know the hold house is upside down. Can we all just get along? When you are arguing, nothing is getting accomplished and definitely, no sex is taking place. I know sometimes there is a need for intense fellowship, but how long are you going to let it fester into cancer. Don’t let the sun on down and you guys are still mad, take a pause, readjust, and work it out. Life is too short to stay mad at each other, learn to let go and move on. What I have learned, you can always revisit a conversation later when you are calmer. Much time is lost when couples stay angry; one of you must take the higher ground and apologize. Taking the higher ground does not mean you are given in, it simply means you want peace. When you argue this disrupts the polarity of the universe, and time is lost not loving on each other. I found that talking naked is the best way to have a conversation. If you’re both naked who can stay angry. Try it.
Have Fun
It is important to keep the fun in your marriage. Spend as much time to together as possible. Nothing spells romance like a da8nite it doesn’t have to be expensive but it should be fun. Sometimes it is good to do something silly like going to a fun plex or painting with a twist together. Whatever you decide to do have fun; being silly with one another will definitely spill over into the bedroom once you reach home or not. Rekindle the fun you two had when you first got together, it doesn’t have to stop once you reach a certain age. My husband and I love to play games, sometimes we have a game night just the two of us. My favorite is Rock’em Sock’em old school…Fun is Fun.
Show off your Sexiness
Ladies don’t be afraid to show off your sexiness to your husband, that’s what he’s there for. When I get something new, I model it for my man. There is nothing like a new pair of shoes and a sexy piece of lingerie; men are visual and they want to see you in these sexy items. Moreover, what women that own a Fur coat has not dressed it up with something sexy or in their birthday suit to show it off. Men also love a woman that small delicious, when you invest in a new fragrance make sure it’s pleasing to your man. Spray the pillow so he will dream of you, your hair, and your body to let him know you belong to him. Sexy never gets old.
Schedule Time for Sex
Husbands and Wives found it hard at times to have spontaneous sex. If you work, have children, own a business, or just doing things pertaining to life than it can be difficult to come home and have Sex. You cannot have great sex with things running through your mind; what am I cooking for dinner, I need to do a load of laundry before bed. STOP, and Relax your MIND. Don’t be afraid to schedule time together for sex. We all have a hectic schedule, lets slow things down, and Meet in the Be Room.
Are You Having Enough SEX
I find it alarming that married couples are not having sex as often as they should (Why). When first married couples start out having sex five to seven days a week and as the relationship grows it goes down 3 times to 1 then none why? When married couples stop having sex the relationship becomes vulnerable to detachment, infidelity, anger, and even divorce. Although a couple’s sex life can be affected by many facts, I believe if two people are healthy, there is no reason why they cannot have a healthy sex life. The question is why married couples are not engaging in sexual pleasures on a regular basis. I have read studies that married couples are having sex 58 times per year, which is unacceptable. Let’s break the cycle of non-sexual relationships by talking about why, what, and how the fire can be ignited again. There’s enough information and assistance to get your Sex life fueled again. I will agree there may be slow times with intimacy; however, there is no need to put out the fire completely. Remember there is no limit on how much sex is too much in your relationship. We would like to hear how your marriage stays HOT.
Don’t Be Pressured
Don’t think you have to be the world’s greatest lover to have great sex. Know what‘s pleasurable for you and your partner. Don’t think you have to keep up with what others are doing or reading; don’t think everything has to be perfect. My husband and I have read many books to enlighten us and obtain information not to try to perform every trick in the book. Lovemaking is an art and is perfected over time with you and your partner. (Perfected not perfect) You and your partner’s style of lovemaking are unique to each other and should be satisfying to you both. Lovemaking is not a race again it’s an Art, and everyone knows art is appreciated over time.